When I studied on this verse I began to feel as though it should have been written for Day 1 of this study.
Ecclesiastes 9:10 says “Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might.”
When you decided to do this study you may have thought that it was a good “idea” to do a marriage study. I beg you to take this verse to heart and give your marriage your full attention. Decide now to get rid of all distractions that might make you lose focus on the “work” at hand. Today and everyday for the rest of your life you will be glad you did.
What are your current distractions? Don’t just think about them, write them down. Look them dead in the eye and tell them “no more!” Your marriage needs you to identify the things that are keeping your mind and thoughts busy but are also not necessary. Could it be social media? Maybe it is other relationships? How about trying to be super mom? Might it be your checking account? Whatever your distractions are, give them a name and a place to go. You truly need to spend some time studying on Biblical marriage and in prayer without distractions. If you’re going to have a marriage that you can honestly say you’ve given “all your might” to, you need to address the things that are hindering you.
What are your future goals for your marriage? Has anyone ever asked you that? No one has ever asked me. When I was reading this verse and writing on my note pad it was as if it became necessary to think about where I wanted my marriage to take me in this life. I wrote that I want to grow old with my husband, that we will build our dream home and sit on the porch and hold hands while we rock. Our children would always know where to find us and we would have each other no matter what this crazy world brings. One of the songs we danced to at our wedding was “Grow Old Along With Me”. Those words ring in my ears as I imagine our life together. Our journey through this life is like being in a boat with oars in a great ocean and our one goal is to make it to the other side. We can either row together while enjoying the company or we can fight and scream our way across and never enjoy the view.
No marriage is without sacrifice or compromise. We must choose to enjoy the earthly pleasures of marriage and life while it lasts because death brings an end to that pleasure. Enjoy your relationship and enjoy the work you put into your marriage. Read Ecclesiastes 9:9 as it is also a plea to do just that. When Ecclesiastes was written the author, who we believe is King Solomon, did not have the joy of knowing Christ as a savior. Death, as a concept, was written as shadowy and dark. Now that we have Christ we know we will see our loved ones again after our earthly death and we will stand before God and answer for ourselves as wives. That very thought makes me stand up a little straighter and love a little harder.
Our toil in this lifetime will be the same toil our sons and daughters perform. It is never ending. I love that in Ecclesiastes that there is so much of it dedicated to how pointless our toil is in the eternal perspective. We work so hard to have "things" but do not put the same effort into the parts of this life that are really the most important and impactful. Our relationship with our husband is to be a good one. One we need to work at from time to time simply to give it meaning other than existing. Enjoy your life with your husband whom you love. He was given to you to love and comfort, support and lift up. Weather the seasons and remain grounded in prayer for him.
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I am married to my high school sweetheart. We've been pressing ahead together for over 24 years. We have 3 boys of our own and 2 foster babies. I wrote this Bible study years ago for me and shared it on my blog. It is very dear to my heart. It's been tweaked and reformatted and I'm proud to be bringing it back to you. Over the years I received countless emails from women who credited this study with changing their marriage for the better. Since removing it from my old blog I have received just as many emails asking when it would return. I hope you enjoy spending your time in God's Word with me.