As I was preparing for this day's study I back tracked all the way to the beginning. Something inside me just wanted to know more about the first lady, the very first wife according to God's Word.
Genesis 2:18 says "I will make him a comparable helper."
When I read the verse my immediate thought went straight to Jesus. He told all of us he would send another helper. (see John 14:16) God Himself would send His Spirit to help us. When we see the word "helper" here it is describing function rather than worth. I also looked up the scripture in various text and found that the word comparable was substituted for the words below..
The reality is, the world has worked mightily to change the truth of our power as wives to our husbands. There is great power in knowing the truth of our roles as wives. Saying "yes" in a marriage ceremony isn't just saying so to get married and call him your husband It's saying "yes' to God's divine plan as a helper, a wife.
In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groans that words can not express. Romans 8:26-27
Imagine how much we rely on the Spirit himself. We need Him. It is essential that we have the Spirit to intercede on our behalf. The Spirit always knows what is just right for us and knows when He is needed. The same goes for us as wives, as helpers. We can intercede in prayer for our husbands and our marriage. We can ask God to help us to know when we are most needed and to know how to handle situations in our marriage. Being a helper to us does not make the Spirit less important. Being our Helper is the most important gift from Christ that we have as Believers. Remember, you are a good thing for your husband and give him favor with the Lord.
Let's get to the heart of the conversation and strip away the idea or feeling that a helper is some how less. Let's use the example of a physical task of lifting a log. On one end of a log is a man who is lifting, dragging, pulling, fighting, and struggling with the log. He begins to tire and feel the task is just too much. Then, along comes a helper who lifts the other end. The helper helps him carry, maneuver, place, and set the log until the task is complete. The helper made the job easier, right? It was less stressful and perhaps even enjoyable if the helper was good company to be around. They can celebrate the triumph over a heavy obstacle or even move to the next, accomplishing much more work at a comfortable pace that is probably just more enjoyable because of the companionship.
Did you imagine the helper as another man or as his wife? Either way, the same exact logic applies to your role as helper to your husband. You do make life better, easier for him. In turn your reward comes with respect, love, appreciation, etc. Even if you don't always feel it or even if it's not recognized for what it is. God sees and knows your heart and will honor the help you offer.
As Christian wives, when we are troubled and find it difficult to pray, the Holy Spirit will intercede for us with a divine intensity (groans) that will express our needs perfectly to God. Believe that when you enter the throne room of your Father in prayer that your prayer is heard either from your heart or from your lips. He will honor your prayers for your marriage and your husband. He will give you direction how to better help him and will encourage you. He will minister to your heart when your heart is in His Will, with the desire to have Him more involved in your marriage. Invite Him in to lead and direct you're heart on the matter of your love for your husband and your marriage.
As our husbands helper we are to be just that, a helper and not to be a hindrance. Becoming a hindrance to our husbands by not helping, putting them down, by nagging, or picking fights also hinders the blessings. The reality is, our husbands are not perfect, they can't do all that they are created to do without us. We aren't servants, we are helpers; we should be equally yoked. Your husband isn't meant to walk this journey of life alone. He is meant to walk it with you. I encourage you to reflect on your role and take notice of all the little things YOU do that are a blessing. Those little blessings you bring are magnified when we praise our Lord Father for allowing us to be a blessing.
But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently. Romans 8: 25
Do you hope for a better marriage? Do you hope for a marriage that is strong and lasting? Do you hope for a marriage that is full of love and desire? Do you hope...? Wait patiently. Ask the Spirit to pour His character of patience and long suffering out on you when needed. Hope in the promise that you and your husband will have the marriage your God dreams for you.
I am married to my high school sweetheart. We've been pressing ahead together for over 24 years. We have 5 beautiful children; 3 by my own body and 2 through foster to adopt. I wrote this Bible study in 2009, years ago, for myself and shared it on my blog. It is very dear to my heart. It's been tweaked and edited many times and I'm proud to be bringing it back to you. Over the years I received countless emails from women who credited this study with changing their marriage for the better. Since removing it from my old blog I have received just as many emails asking when it would return. I hope you enjoy spending your time in God's Word with me.