"...He brought her to the man." -Genesis 2:22
Can you even imagine what it must have been like for Eve? Her very first experience was in the presence of God. She saw Him first. God, in all His Glory, was all she needed and known, nothing less. He created her, understood her, cherished her, loved her every fiber and yet, He walked her right up to Adam and gave her away. Everything she had ever known about love and life was perfect and full. Now this glorious woman was standing face to face with man, her man, her counterpart. I'm sure she didn't also know he would behave like a man, treat her differently than God, she had no idea the difference. Man's love would be different than God's. She doesn't know yet that his love will be less than and flawed from what she had already experienced.
From the fullness of his grace we have all received one blessing after another. -John 1:16
Grace is "the kindness and the love of God our Savior"..not because of righteous things we have done. God hears our righteous prayers and answers them. This is why it is important to lift your husband and marriage up in prayer with your voice. With fervent, audacious, and bold prayers you are being called to speak over your marriage. Your prayers are empowered and it is your responsibility to speak them to the Father, the possibilities that are set into motion with prayer will cause your marriage to receive one blessing after another. By His grace! By the fullness of His grace you will receive based on His love for you and your husband.
God's love for us is perfect and we can not compare it to anything here on earth. Christ's love for his church, his people, is one we strive for. At this moment in time, Eve and Adam are untarnished and probably are in awe of one another. Eve will step away from her Father's arms into the loving arms of man. I can't even fathom that. Can you? I know when my Daddy gave me away at our wedding I was going to miss him so much but had to trust my new husband could be the man I needed him to be, as best as he could. Do husbands disappoint? Do they come into marriage knowing exactly what to do? They fall short. Just like we do as wives. It's a lifetime of learning how to live together. Does our marriage sometimes leave us feeling hopeless? Sure it does. Can our husbands be better men? Can they be more? Can they be that comparable companion that meets at least some of our needs. Yes! We aren't studying on them ladies. We are studying on our role as wives and how to improve our marriage and what we have to work with can seem like the pits or we can learn and nurture it and make it beautiful. We have that power.
So why not ask? Our God is limitless and so are the possibilities. Our intercession for our marriage in prayer allows God to give us a vision from a heavenly perspective. What is your marriage saying to the world? The world begins to see that it is not one that fulfills the other but that God, in His perfect fullness, completes us as individuals where our flesh fails. We are to pray for change in every aspect of our marriage, and our lives, so that we are seeking to be complete in Christ and not each other.
Where we tend to fall short is that we are guilty of seeking our own fullness in our husbands. We need them to love us a certain way. We may crave more kindness, more touch, more sweet words, more gifts, and I could go on and on. The reality is, our fullness is found in Christ Jesus alone. We can't be their everything and they can't be ours. Only the God that created us out of complete love can fill us and satisfy. Our husbands can not be given that great responsibility of pleasing and satisfying our every need. They can not possibly meet our expectations on their own. They need Christ and so do you.
Our frustrations with our husbands will always come from their inability to fulfill our expectations.
What do you do about this? You pray and you seek your fullness from God. The Father made you to seek Him, Christ will lay down everything to win you, and the Spirit is calling out to help you. He will put your expectations in perspective.
I am married to my high school sweetheart. We've been pressing ahead together for over 24 years. We have 5 beautiful children; 3 by my own body and 2 through foster to adopt. I wrote this Bible study in 2009, years ago, for myself and shared it on my blog. It is very dear to my heart. It's been tweaked and edited many times and I'm proud to be bringing it back to you. Over the years I received countless emails from women who credited this study with changing their marriage for the better. Since removing it from my old blog I have received just as many emails asking when it would return. I hope you enjoy spending your time in God's Word with me.