"This is now bone of my bones
And flesh of my flesh...
Amazed? Relieved. Excited! Adored.
What must have Adam thought of this beautiful creature standing before him on the Father's arm? One thing is certain, he recognized immediately that she was from him. His thoughts could have possibly gone something like this....
"She is of me. She gets me. She understands me. She will know my strengths and weaknesses. She feels my pain and my hurt. She will help me seek relief and rest when I need it. She'll be fun to be around. We can explore the garden together."
I was sitting in church listening to a sermon from a guest preacher but my mind was going back towards this study I wanted to work on. So, I opened up my journal and started scribbling thoughts and verse and just trying to open up to the lesson God wanted me to learn that day. My husband was sitting next to me watching. He's always gets to witness the Spirit move after I do a Bible study, read, or discuss a new revelation, or sometimes even when I write something down and it later is more significant than we realized at the time. That's the Spirit and today was no exception. I had just written the sentences below when something happened that made us both take a breath and smile.
She is tuned to her husband. That isn't as easy for us these days as wives but it's important to be aware of it. We were created to be in tune with our husband, whom we love.
Not 5 minutes after I wrote this thought down did our preacher say the words below.
Just like when tuning piano's the tuner uses 1 fork. Thousands of piano's will be tuned to just 1 fork. So, they are tuned to each other.
He went on about how beautiful the sound is when many piano's play together that have been tuned by the same fork. Just like we are to be tuned to our husbands, we are also to be tuned to the Holy Spirit to be unified.
These word choices that God had given me and our guest preacher that day were not by chance. We were tuned to the Spirit. The Spirit will always show up and show unity in your life when you turn your heart to God. Unity is what we seek. Understanding of each others needs that runs so deep we meet them before we realize we have.
We all seek to be understood. We all want nothing more than for our husbands to understand us. But first, we must learn to understand them (and maybe even ourselves). Just as Adam knew that they were tuned to each other, your goal in your marriage is to be tuned as well. Unity in your marriage, that is tuned to the Holy Spirit, allows for your marriage to reflect God's beautiful plan for families. Pray and prepare for unity because God is about to do something great.
Ephesians 4:2-5 says
with all lowliness and gentleness, love, endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called in one hope of your calling; one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God and Father of all, who is above all and through all, and in you all.
You don't have to worry about how the unity will happen. You simply need to pray for it.
Speaking of prayer, this is the part that matters most. This is the part that God really wants you to focus. There will come a time in your marriage when it is critical that you pray. Many lose hope and believe that failures are irreversible. They are not. Write down all the things you are praying for and "nail" them to your wall. Put them in a place where you can pray and spend time with Him and pray over them. Sometimes answered prayers don't always look like answered prayers at first so keep trusting. Sometimes in the hidden places we can not see is were God is working His biggest miracles. Psalm 2:8 tells us that if we as Him, He will give us the nations of our inheritance and the ends of the earth for our possessions. Will He not give you the thing you are praying for most in your marriage? Pray for the unity that you seek in your marriage. Unity is what marriage was designed to do, be unified. Look for aspects in your relationship, life, work, time, etc that need more unity. We all seek to be understood and our husbands are no different. We are no different.
And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. -Colossians 3:14
I am married to my high school sweetheart. We've been pressing ahead together for over 24 years. We have 5 beautiful children; 3 by my own body and 2 through foster to adopt. I wrote this Bible study in 2009, years ago, for myself and shared it on my blog. It is very dear to my heart. It's been tweaked and edited many times and I'm proud to be bringing it back to you. Over the years I received countless emails from women who credited this study with changing their marriage for the better. Since removing it from my old blog I have received just as many emails asking when it would return. I hope you enjoy spending your time in God's Word with me.