If two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? -Ecclesiastes 4:11
Time spent together is vital to the health of a marriage. Without spending time together we can't share, laugh, cry or enjoy each others company. When the opportunity arises for us to spend time with our spouse and we don't, our marriages become resentful, stagnate and sometimes even die. As obvious as this fact seems, many marriages today are time starved. They are time starved, touch starved, and dream starved. When we don't take time for one another we begin missing out on the elements of life that connect us. Human touch is vital to our well being. Communicating our hopes and dreams is vital to prosper. If we were to put dots on our marriage time line of all the moments we spent time with our husbands, would our time line become like a beautiful string of pearls or would it be full of gaps and piecing pieces?
God's Holy Word, that is alive, is calling us to spend time with Him. In doing so, we then spend time in prayer. It's essential, we speak to our Father and He speaks to us through His Word. His Spirit moves and the communication is made complete. This is an example of our our marriage should be. It is a structure that is in place for perfect communion with the Lord. Jesus Christ made the way for this to be possible. He wants no less for your marriage.
Usually a lack of time spent together is simply a matter of poor planning or we just aren't really good at saying "no" to those that want commitments from us. When our commitments start to outweigh our available time, aspects of our marriage start to suffer. We are all surrounded by people that demand our time; employers, kids, church, school, etc. If you happen to have a husband that doesn't speak up, he's liable to end up at the bottom of the list. The flip side is if a spouse is too vocal, they are often accused of being selfish, manipulative, controlling, etc. We simply can not let aspirations for our life negatively affect our relationship with our loved ones. Just as they should not negatively affect our relationship with Christ.
Love and faithfulness meet together; righteousness and peace kiss each other. Psalm 85:9-11
It really doesn't matter why couples find themselves not spending enough time together; what does matter, is that it is a problem that is recognized and remedied. Spending time together should be high on the priority list and it should stay there. Your marriage could depend on it. In order to gain more time with your husband, start by devoting more time to prayer. Ask God to show you what our time means to Him. Ask God reveal to you what is missing from your marriage that time spent together can remedy. It may just be that it is time for you both to dream again, to learn to love again, or simply to adore the presence of one another.
Plan a date night, date lunch or romantic evening, just the two of you. Leave all distractions behind and dedicate time together. It's important to put it down and stick to it. Make time spent together a priority.
And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Colossians 3:13-15
I am married to my high school sweetheart. We've been pressing ahead together for over 24 years. We have 5 beautiful children; 3 by my own body and 2 through foster to adopt. I wrote this Bible study in 2009, years ago, for myself and shared it on my blog. It is very dear to my heart. It's been tweaked and edited many times and I'm proud to be bringing it back to you. Over the years I received countless emails from women who credited this study with changing their marriage for the better. Since removing it from my old blog I have received just as many emails asking when it would return. I hope you enjoy spending your time in God's Word with me.