"Therefore I urge you, (sisters), in view of God's mercy to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God - this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will e able to test and approve what God's will is - his good, pleasing and perfect will." -Romans 12:1-2 with additional comment
Last night I had an awful dream. My dream was about my husband and I. At times it was weird and didn't make sense. My dream was that I drove my husband away. He was simply no longer interested in me and actually would much prefer someone different all together. When I woke up my heart was broken, my mind went directly to what I would do to keep my husband. It made me feel as though I would do anything to keep him and I wanted the "courting process" to start all over. I wanted to be delightful to be around and willing to put his needs before mine. I wanted to say..."Shove over world and leave us alone!"
Have you ever felt or even considered that the living sacrificial relationship you have with God also mirrors one you have with your husband. Have you ever felt the need or desire to lay it all down for him?
Now, I know my husband isn't leaving or looking, it was just a dream, but it does make me think about how willing I was in the beginning to please him. I would dress nice and talk sweeter...that was in the beginning. The beginning was many years ago. Should that change? Does it change? Do you think our husbands would appreciate if we went go back to those days? What if you set out to win your husband heart every single day? Just like God does for us.
When I think about what a godly and virtuous wife or woman would be like I immediately think on Proverbs 31:10-31
10Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
31Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Maybe we should read through those again....
The virtuous woman brings her husband pride, she is not lazy, she does good by her husband and puts much thought and effort into her responsibilities, every one of them. Her words are thought out, she is kind, she is not vain and she is always prepared. When I personally read through all these things that describe the virtuous woman, I make a mental list of all the things I am not.
There was a time when I read through these and thought, I'm not doing too bad. I think I might work on one of these I'm not doing well though. Proverbs 31:15 was the one I chose. Which one would you choose? I definitely have the desire to take care of my family and it would not hurt me at all to wake up a little before them each morning and get it together. I could spend time in prayer, put on my armor, and adjust my attitude. So many little things can be accomplished by getting ahead of my family during the day. I'm not the best at it but my alarm goes off every morning before my husbands. That was my desire. Yours may be totally different.
Why is this all important to consider?
It would not have been placed in God's Holy Word if it was not important. We surely do not want our husbands studying on these things for us. Instead, have a talk with God about the things you can do better or work on. Reflect on your marriage in the beginning, in the "courting" or "honeymoon" stages when your best foot was put forward and think of one thing that you did then for your husband that you no longer do that he might still appreciate. If he appreciated the efforts then, he will appreciate them now.
The Bible has so much to say about the body. God cares about your body because He dwells within it. If you want to know what God has in store for you, what His will is for your marriage, offer your body to Him as a living sacrifice. Do all you can to present it as the best possible self you can. Take care of yourself, get rest and sleep, eat well, exercise, avoid anything that may compromise your health. Study His Word, guard your tongue, protect your eyes and ears from what you see and hear. Not only do you deserve to take care of yourself but God expects you to take care of you. If you aren't taking care of yourself, how can you possibly give your marriage, husband, or family the care it needs.
The relationship of the believer to Jesus Christ is as the relationship of husband and wife. You share, you belong, you are one; emotionally physically, mentally, spiritually one. Yes, you are two separate creations of God but He has called you to be one.
Father, I want to know You more intimately. I give my life to You, my physical body was created to worship You and You perfectly dwell within me. Spirit teach me to take better care of myself, show me what God says is important for me, make His will for my life evident. I want to glorify Your name in all that I do and say. Keep my mind alert, train me up as a child of Yours. Lord, I ask that you continue to put a divide between myself and the world. The world does to offer me a thing that is of value to You. Only Your goodness and grace that meets my every need is acceptable. Show me Lord where there needs to be pruning in my life, show me where I can flourish for your Kingdom. Give me an eternal perspective so that I can see farther. I know You never reveal the full picture of our purpose but step by step You guide, guide me. I give you my life and my body so that I may serve and be Your hands and feet in this world that does not know You. Thank you Lord for promises. Thank you Lord for reminding me that I am Yours. In Jesus Holy Name, Amen.
I am married to my high school sweetheart. We've been pressing ahead together for over 24 years. We have 5 beautiful children; 3 by my own body and 2 through foster to adopt. I wrote this Bible study in 2009, years ago, for myself and shared it on my blog. It is very dear to my heart. It's been tweaked and edited many times and I'm proud to be bringing it back to you. Over the years I received countless emails from women who credited this study with changing their marriage for the better. Since removing it from my old blog I have received just as many emails asking when it would return. I hope you enjoy spending your time in God's Word with me.