"All Scripture is inspired by God and is profitable for teaching, for rebuking, for correcting, for training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be complete, equipped for EVERY good work." - 2 Timothy 3:16-17, emphasis added
That also includes His guidance for His children. He will do whatever is possible to help you know His will for your marriage. It is essential, however, that you watch for His hand in your life so that your are able to discern the circumstances for what they are. He will create them as He opens and shuts doors, just let God be God.
"Call me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know." -Jeremiah 3:33
Sometimes it feels like you aren't sure what doors to walk through. As husband and wife, that is when it becomes very important to pray together. God has never failed us when we ask Him to reveal His will. Sometimes He shuts other doors, sometimes He makes the path straight, sometimes He shines a light for us. Watch for His favor and use what He gave you. He gave you eyes to see and ears to hear.
His Word also speaks. When you begin to see His Word as a living, life breathing Book you will begin to stop reading as mere stories and black and white words. Before even opening His Word, ask for guidance like He offers in Jeremiah 33:3 and His Word will change how you read and what you receive. It will begin to speak to you in the places that need filling up with Him. He may guide you but He will be clear in His guidance. He may never give you the full picture but being obedient to His will and keeping an eternal perspective of your marriage will change you and guide you.
Read Acts 16:6-12. Paul and Timothy were actually forbidden by the Holy Spirit to got to Asia. Their course instead was straight to Macedonia, led by the prompting of the Holy Spirit. One door closed and another opened. God has inherently equipped you with what it takes to know His will. Asking for the Holy Spirit for His help in discernment can be the key to making sure the doors opened are wide. Prayer opens them wide just like the gates of heaven.
In 2011, around the first week of September, just after labor day; my husband lost his job. The job he'd had for 6 years. I was probably the only woman whose husband had lost his job in that tanked economy and was happy about it. Number one, I knew the job was slowly killing him and number two our marriage had been suffering. A week before he was given the "pink slip", we'd had the biggest fight of our marriage. One that made me call it quits. I was done. My husband was completely miserable and he was making all of us miserable. I knew the instant that I saw him when he walked through the door and started to hand me his release papers that it was God. Sure, circumstances may have led up to that day but if it had not been for God stepping in I am not sure I would have had the strength to keep trying. Because I knew that this was a God thing, I knew that He was in control of our lives and was working on something big. In the mean time, my husband and I had more time to study God's Holy Word and to spend more time with our Father. We are leaning on Him and seeking out His Will for us. Sometimes, when things get so bad that we feel we can not go any further, God steps in and takes over.
Can you look back on any situation in your life, that at the time you thought was devastating, and now you see how God used that circumstance to give you better than you ever imagined? have you ever seen him take pain and hurt and turn it into something healing and beautiful?
There is a time for everything, a season for every activity under the heaven. A time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to more and a time to dance... - Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
Sometimes, it's just time to walk through another door.
Looking back, years later, I definitely see that our Father had better things in store for us. It was one of the best door closings of our lives. We definitely wanted to be where He needed us to be and where we would find Him working. I have learned since, in the face of tragedies and disappointments to say immediately; "Well, God's got something better for us." He has been very faithful on this matter of door closing. The doors that opened have led us far beyond our expectations and imaginations.
Watch Him work. You've read your Bible, you've asked for guidance, you've prayed diligently for His help, now watch Him work. When your marriage goals and desires line up with His will for you, amazing works begin to happen that can only be explained by Him. As our marriage is a reflection of the Gospel so is the Great Commission in application as well. You're marriage is a reflection of what God can do for others.
Lord Father, I will hope in You. I will live to serve you with gladness and live righteously. I will praise Your holy name forever. I partake of Your mercies that are new every morning. Your love for me never fails, and Your mercy endures. Lord, I ask that You cut off and close doors to the things in my life that are preventing me to walk in you will. Lord, I ask that you cut off and close all doors for my husband if anything is preventing him from walking in Your will. I am blessed because I put my trust in You. I thank You, Lord that your heart is for my marriage and I will continually bless You and praise You. Lord I ask you today to make our path clear as husband and wife. Show us with all certainty the doors we should walk through. Your Word is true, Lord I thank you that with Your mighty hand you close doors. Just like closing the door to the ark, You protected your creation from the Great Flood. Lord, protect my marriage. In Jesus Holy name, Amen.
I am married to my high school sweetheart. We've been pressing ahead together for over 24 years. We have 5 beautiful children; 3 by my own body and 2 through foster to adopt. I wrote this Bible study in 2009, years ago, for myself and shared it on my blog. It is very dear to my heart. It's been tweaked and edited many times and I'm proud to be bringing it back to you. Over the years I received countless emails from women who credited this study with changing their marriage for the better. Since removing it from my old blog I have received just as many emails asking when it would return. I hope you enjoy spending your time in God's Word with me.