"For I know the plans I have for you" declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future" -Jeremiah 29:11
I can't read that verse and not immediately want to jump to this one.
"For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be." - Psalm 139:13-16
Give Him your heart. You can trust Him with it, He made it. He made you special and you were chosen to be here in this moment at this time. You are so very special to Him that you were carefully and thoughtfully and fearfully created and crafted and designed by God your Father. Before He even created this world, He had a plan for you. You are no accident, no after thought. He didn't make you up as He went along. He created you and willed you into this life for a purpose. He chose your parents and wove you together in the womb. He knew where you would be born among your generations before you and what order you were to be born. He even planned and chose for you your spiritual heritage. Some parts you may not consider beautiful, but He does. Some parts you see as He does, gorgeous. You're a perfect creation with the desire to seek out your Father's love. He gave you everything you need to overcome everything that needs over coming, even your heritage if needed.
In a previous days devotion I asked the question: If God made you to be the perfect wife to your husband, do you believe that you are her?
There are some days when that answers feels like a firm and solid "no". There are days when you may want to shout "absolutely". Hopefully, the "no" days are very few. There was a time in our marriage when the "no" days out weighed the "absolutely" days. Now, there is not question, even on our hardest days my answer is always "absolutely". God has invested so much in you and your marriage that you may not even see or know. You may be two imperfect people that He created perfectly, people the world has broken and sinned against, but He created you BOTH exactly as you should be. You then chose each other to walk through this life journey together and He will bless it.
An incredible amount of effort and time was used to design you. Our Father focused and made you one of a kind. He did not take the safe route and just start making copies of people. No, He took His time and did it right when He made you. He did the same thing for your husband. He planned and thought about you so extensively, far beyond the age of this earth. He knew your soul before it was placed in His earthly creation. He smiles when He looks at you and He smiles when He looks at you and your husband together. He is waiting and watching for you both to acknowledge His presence and all He has to offer you in this life.
The world needs the two of you to remain faithful in your marriage and to each other. The world needs you. You are both bringing something special that no other couple of individuals in the world can bring. You each have gifts, that when combined, have the power to change peoples thinking about what marriage should look like. Other people you know, need to see what God has done. God gave you the power to show the world what is possible when it comes to marriage.
We don't know what God's plan is. We don't know what our future chapters look like or even how long He has written them, our days are ordained. During that time, God does not promise that things won't get hard or painful. He doesn't promise that we will have worry free days until we take our last breath but what He does promise is, we can run to Him. He promises that He can turn the pain and hard stuff into beauty and dancing. His power and promises are all tied together with the love that He has for you. You and your husband were both created to be loved by Him, to seek His love, and to desire that relationship.
We are to not just to know there is a God or believe that Jesus walked on this Earth. We are also to have a relationship with Him that is intimate. The intimacy was designed from the very beginning and when He released you into this world He wanted nothing more than you to turn back to Him and embrace His love. Graft into Him. Jesus said "I am the true vine, and my Father is the Gardener..." -John 15:1 If we will remain in Jesus, Jesus will remain in us and God our Father Gardener will take care of the rest. He will surround us with beauty and pull the weeds for us. He will help us to bear fruit and trim away the things in our life that prevent us from being fruitful.
Your marriage was written into His chapters. As the Author and Perfecter of our lives you can trust that the life He has for You was designed for something more beautiful than you can imagine. He will continue to place in your life, everything you need to strengthen your marriage.
Lord, I present myself and my marriage to You. I desire to draw nearer to You with my entire heart. I give myself back to You . I want to be holy and acceptable to You. The world changed me and it's influence does little good. My life is in Your hands today, just like it was the day You first thought of me until the moment You created me. I give You my heart and all of the pains and disappointments. Create in me Daddy God, a clean heart, and renew in me a steadfast spirit. Lord take my marriage and transform it into Your image of marriage. Make my husband and I like You. Show us why You created us. I believe Your Word. You are the vine and I am the branch. I will abide and remain in You all of the days you have ordained in my life. Without You I can do nothing. I need You and Your presence at all times. Lead us and guide us by Your Spirit. We want to have the fruit that remains and is waiting for us. We desire and ask for godly character a we abide in You. Show us Your ways. Lead us down he path of righteousness for Your name's sake. In Your name Jesus I pray, Amen.
I am married to my high school sweetheart. We've been pressing ahead together for over 24 years. We have 5 beautiful children; 3 by my own body and 2 through foster to adopt. I wrote this Bible study in 2009, years ago, for myself and shared it on my blog. It is very dear to my heart. It's been tweaked and edited many times and I'm proud to be bringing it back to you. Over the years I received countless emails from women who credited this study with changing their marriage for the better. Since removing it from my old blog I have received just as many emails asking when it would return. I hope you enjoy spending your time in God's Word with me.