So many of our relationships in our life, including our marriage, directly effect our relationship with Jesus. Instead of allowing Him to be our gold standard we allow our past relationships to tell us how Jesus feels about us.
Greater love has no other than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. - John 15:13
Jesus fills many roles for us during our life and no one role is more important than the other. What I want to focus on today for you is His friendship and love for us. Jesus wants to help release us of mindsets that are not true of Him or of ourselves. He wants to give us complete and total healing from the lies we have attached to Him and to ourselves so that where healing needs to happen in our relationships, especially with our husbands, it becomes possible.
For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from eh love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord - Romans 8:38-39
Nothing can keep us from Him. We have the power through Him to reveal and remove all that we attached to our relationship to Him that is false. He is waiting for you, friend. Once, we lift these lies we will experience Him in ways that change our relationships with those we love and encounter daily. Jesus was, is, and forever will be God (John 1:1-14) He came to be with us so we could experience Him even today. He can relate to any and all situations we are faced with because he experienced a physical existence with us. He left with us a relationship with Him that means we have a relationship with the Father too. He represents the greatest friendship and love we can ever have. We get to experience Him in every moment of our life. He gave us the ultimate gift, redemption through His sacrifice of stepping down from His Throne to join us, to the gift of His death, and the glory of rising again as Conqueror. Yes, that guy...He is our Friend.
All over the world, every day, relationships are formed and broken; we base them all on how we are treated and how we feel. Not Jesus, He chooses us regardless of whether we like Him or not. He chose us despite how we treat or think of Him. He does this so that it is up to us if we accept or reject Him as friend. Knowing this, how do you know think of your marriage?
Behold I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with Me. -Revelation 3:20
Once we accept His gift of the cross, we are forever marked by His love. We get to experience this life with Him and He wants to experience it with you. The image of Jesus sitting with me and tasting this life with me blows me away. The Bible tells us that He is not only a friend but also like a big Brother.
Therefore He had to be made like His brothers in every respect, so that He m might become a merciful and faithful high priest in the service of God, to make propitiation for the sins of the people. - Hebrews 2:17
King Jesus is our friend, even better than a brother (Prov 18:24). As a "younger sibling" of Jesus we can access all that He owns. As children of God we become co-heirs of His Kingdom. We can BOLDY go before the Throne of Grace (Her 4:6) because we belong there. We are not simply visitors. While we are there Jesus intercedes on our behalf continuously. He is our Savior, Friend, and Mediator at all times. Our past relationships create in us an expectation of Jesus. It is time to reverse this mindset and let our relationship with Jesus create an expectation of all past and future earthly relationships. We can no longer let the world color the way we see Jesus. We need to let Jesus color the way we see the world.
Forgiveness is one of the most powerful tools that we have. It is a powerful weapon against the enemy. Unforgiveness chains us to moments in our past that we are not to carry with us and we always hold the key that will release us from those chains, forgiveness. Our guilt and shame are roadblocks to healing and strain our relationship with Christ. Jesus imparts forgiveness on us and we must do the same for others. He wants to take the responsibility so that we can let go and experience freedom.
Any lies that the enemy uses to deceive us regarding our relationship with our husband can cause distance between us and Jesus. It is time, that we ask Jesus to to relate to us each in person on a personal level. It is rewarding to watch Jesus replace His Truth in the areas of pain within our marriage or any area of our life. Jesus heals hurts, removes lies and imparts truth. That's what He does for us. We are going ask our Friend for help. We have so much that needs healing.
In prayer today we are going to ask Jesus to reveal any lies about our relationship with Him that may be effecting our relationship with our husband. We are going to let Jesus expose those lies and where they started. We are going to ask Him to reveal Himself and to help us forgive anyone who taught us this lie. He will remove ungodly mindsets and replace them with truth. It's time to let our Friend, our Savior, heal any brokenness in our marriage that is a direct result of relationship with Him.
For myself, Jesus continues to reveal my spirit of rejection. He heals those moments for me when I experienced them and shows me how to forgive. My spirit and even fear of rejection has caused strains in my marriage, believing that one day I may not be the bride to my husband that he wants or deserves often made me want to go ahead and throw in the towel. Jesus broke those chains for me one by one. Whatever lie your chains have attached you to, will be broken. He promises to do so.
Jesus, I come to You today to thank You for being a Friend to me. Lord, I ask that You reveal to me a lie that has been impressed upon me about You or myself. Show me, Jesus, where this lie was first placed and reveal to me how that made you feel during that moment. I want to feel Your presence during the memory so that I will know how to forgive. I want to see my experience through Your eyes. I ask that you unchain me from the lie and replace that mindset with one of truth. Forgive me Jesus for not running to you before now and believing anything other than Your truth. Cast out all of the ungodly thoughts that I have that tarnish my relationship with You and in turn have tarnished my relationship with my husband.. Help me to see how You love me. Help me to transfer this forgiveness and love to my husband. Lord Jesus, Help me to forgive always. In Your Precious Name, Amen.
I am married to my high school sweetheart. We've been pressing ahead together for over 24 years. We have 5 beautiful children; 3 by my own body and 2 through foster to adopt. I wrote this Bible study in 2009, years ago, for myself and shared it on my blog. It is very dear to my heart. It's been tweaked and edited many times and I'm proud to be bringing it back to you. Over the years I received countless emails from women who credited this study with changing their marriage for the better. Since removing it from my old blog I have received just as many emails asking when it would return. I hope you enjoy spending your time in God's Word with me.