The Lord is still unraveling and unveiling so many things to me that I do not understand, things that have been taught to me during my 40 years that have been unclear are now coming into focus. The most important being, the Holy Spirit. My relationship with Jesus is beautiful and my growing relationship with the Father, understanding who He is to me, is being perfected. However, years back I felt a stirring in me that something was missing and I honestly didn't know what.
But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in My name, He shall teach you all the things, and bring all the things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you. - John 14:26 KJV
Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groaning too deep for words - Romans 8:26
Out of all of the Trinity, the Person I understood the least was the Holy Spirit. I believe this may be the case for many Christians. His scriptural appearances vary greatly; a dove (Matt 3:16), a gust of wind (Acts 2:2), tongues of fire (Acts 2:3) and no one actually knows what the Spirit looks like. So, you can see why it has been hard for the last 40 years of my life to understand who He is.
He is a teacher, empowered, nurturer, and helper; to start with.
Knowing this, you can see why it became very important for my marriage to better understand who this Person is I didn't know. He interacts in our lives and gifts of the Fruit of His Spirit. We only need to learn to follow His promptings and as our nurturer we can take our pain to Him.
And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Counselor to be with you forever; the Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and will be in you. - John 14:15 & 16
This scripture perfectly explains my struggle.
But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come. He will bring glory to me by taking from what is mine and making it known to you. - John 16:13 & 14
I grew up attending two churches, one a "Spirit Filled" church and the other a "Conservatively Spirit Filled". It was very confusing for me as a child, still saved by the grace of God and love of Jesus, but not understanding the third Person. It's all for His glory however.
A few years after my initial marriage study I was sitting in our new church home after a Sunday night sermons. I couldn't move. I felt paralyzed and kept saying to my husband "something is missing". It was so pressed upon me that I was missing something that I didn't want to leave until I had answers. Obviously, we couldn't stay all night and wait. On the drive home with so much passion in my heart I kept saying to my husband "I know I'm saved, I love my Jesus, but I feel like something is missing and I don't understand." He couldn't explain it, I couldn't explain it, but the Holy Spirit was trying to explain it.
I was simply missing a relationship with the Spirit. It's funny how God uses others influence to open your eyes, we are all just testimonies of His glory walking around and the Spirit isn't going to be ignored. You love Jesus? You pray to the Father? Are you working on your relationship with the Spirit? I had no idea what that meant. A few days later I was laying across my bed praying about this feeling that would not settle. It was so deep within me. I looked up and saw a book on my husbands night stand called "Power". It was given to us by a friend whose church we attended a few months earlier. I sat up, opened it, and I read the words that went something like "Do you feel like something is missing?" Well! Yes, Lord I do!
For the next few hours I soaked up every word. Some of it was hard to swallow. Some of it was so brand new to me. I was hungry for it. I realized very quickly that I only needed to invite the Spirit to work in my life, He was waiting on Me to submit and yield to Him.
Just this past year I attended a two Bible conferences. One was the Women of Joy conference and it was amazing. I heard the Lord speak audibly to me in that small voice He uses and answered a prayer before I left that I consider a miracle. That's a story for another day. A week or so later I found myself under the Fire at another conference. I encountered the Holy Spirit like never before and what I walked away with was a relationship that I needed. I heard someone tell this story that another evangelical preacher had shared and I'm sorry to say I don't know his name. The story goes something like this...
When I go to large events to preach in a sanctuary will fill with people. I am put into a room to wait. I stay there quietly wishing I could get out. I've been told to stay here and pray for those coming in to hear me preach but all I really want to do is go out and start praying over, loving, and speaking life into those coming in. I'm locked away in a tiny room when I could be working and moving among God's people. THAT, is exactly what we do to the Holy Spirit. We allow Him into us and we lock Him away. We say to Him, stay right here, pray for me and I'll come get you when I need you to do something big. Instead, what He wants to do is walk with you through your every move, your every moment, your every word in the world and guide you, pray with you, teach you, share God's love. Still, He waits and prays and we feel His presence, we know He is there.
Sister, are you feeling this? If you want to see miracles in your marriage you have to release the Spirit in your life. You have to put on your armor, pick up your tools, and tell Him to show out! The gracious thing that the Spirit does for us is not overpower us, He waits for us to give Him permission to be the Power! Can you imagine what that power will do?
There is a song we sing in church regularly by Jeremy Camp and every time my hands fly up in praise because I know what it means. My desire is to help others understand what I am learning. The song goes.
The same power that rose Jesus from the grave
Ladies, this power is for us. It's in us. Believe!
Are you committed to making your marriage stronger?
Are you ready for the power that Jesus sent to us to take over in your marriage?
I have a word for you... "Your husband is a great man of God."
You may not believe it now, you may not see it now, it may not yet be truth but sister, your husband is being called to be a great man of God.
It took a stranger praying over me during the Fire conference for my eyes to be opened to fact. My husband was not raised in church but had a daddy that love the Lord. His daddy prayed for his children and wife. Tragically, he was taken at a very young age, when his babies were little. He was a great man of God, everyone says so that knew him. When I met my husband when we were 12 years old, he did not know if he believed in God. He was not in church growing up. When we started dating at the tender age of 14, and our parents were driving us to the movies, he still did not believe. Sister, I believed enough for him to catch it. I told my future husband that I had to introduce him to the Savior that loved him more than I did. It didn't take long before Jesus captured his heart and he had much to learn. We've been together almost 26 years and we are both still learning.
Are you praying for your husband to become a great mean of God? Do you see him as that? Do you see past his mistakes or do you see his future self? When Jesus talks about the miracles that happen when we "just believe", He is speaking truth. It's time to let go of all you think you know, and embrace the truth, surrender your life, your marriage in whole (not in part) to Him.
Pray with me.
Lord Father, I want to thank you for all Your grace, all Your mercy, and all Your blessings. Lord, thank You for pressing into me the things You need me to know. I understand that there is so much I may never know until I reach Your presence in Glory, and that there are mysteries you are looking to reveal to me here. I want to receive them all, Father. Thank you Jesus for making a way and being a friend to me during my troubled times and celebrating with me during this life journey. Now, Spirit, I need You. I need You to show up in my life and show out. Teach me about the power of You that resides in Me. Show me how I can pray for my husband and our marriage. Spirit, bring me comfort and wisdom during the hard times. I know that the evil one is lurking to steal, kill, and destroy what God sees as good. My marriage is a good thing, help me to be the wife that sees my husband as You see him.. Lord, thank You for Your patience, protection, and truth. In the name of Jesus, my sweet Savior. Amen
I am married to my high school sweetheart. We've been pressing ahead together for over 24 years. We have 5 beautiful children; 3 by my own body and 2 through foster to adopt. I wrote this Bible study in 2009, years ago, for myself and shared it on my blog. It is very dear to my heart. It's been tweaked and edited many times and I'm proud to be bringing it back to you. Over the years I received countless emails from women who credited this study with changing their marriage for the better. Since removing it from my old blog I have received just as many emails asking when it would return. I hope you enjoy spending your time in God's Word with me.