before any plant of the field was in the earth and before any herb of the field had grown. For the Lord God had not caused it to rain on the earth, and there was no man to till the ground; - Genesis 2:5
There was a time on this earth when it was completely barren of a garden. It was a just a hot, humid dust ball where nothing flourished because there was nothing to flourish.
There was a day just before the planting.
The earth was not capable of bringing forth its own fruit, it was not able to plant itself. Plus, two factors where missing to cause a a garden to flourish, rain and someone to tend it.
Do you ever feel like your marriage is going through a dry spell; no refreshing rain, no tending? Have you ever heard the saying "You may think the grass is greener on the other side, but if you take the time to water your own grass, it would be just as green?" Are you looking at your dry side and peering over to the other side wishing your grass was green and lush again? I can't imagine any marriage that does not experience this. Be patient; water and tend a little to what you've been given.
When the earth was so hot that water existed only in the form of vapor, there could be no vegetation. Rain began to pour, the vapor condensed to form the seas and the vegetation, planted by God, began to to clothe the cool ground of the earth. A garden was in the making. It required His planting, the earth could not do it on its own.
A garden was rising up out of what was once the dry dust. It's vegetation started reaching towards the heavens and became fruitful. This narrative in God's Word was not just a description of the beginning of our world, but of man's relationship to God and in turn, our relationship with our husbands.
I want to talk about this dry time in your marriage because it's important to recognize it for what it is. During this time when things are very uncomfortable, when we begin looking for a sign that there is grass greener elsewhere; it's time to ask God for reassurance concerning your own grass. God created the heavens, the moon, the stars, and all the things we marvel. Even after all that beauty in the beginning there was a moment when, the earth seemed hopeless. Your marriage will mimic God's perfect plan. You feel in love, everything was wonderful and then you start waiting for the garden.
We all know what happens next...
Jehovah himself planted the seeds into the darkness of the earth and that seed held within itself, the miracle of another seed. There may be a time in your marriage when there seems to be no fruit, when there seems to be no refreshing rain, when there seems to be no one tending to the planting of the garden that will ultimately produce the fruit we long for.
I am here to tell you, sister, that you just pray and wait. The rain is coming and the seeds are being planted. The garden is about to rise up. God is not withholding from you the marriage you desire. That is a lie of Satan that was told from the very beginning. God is not withholding. He is simply preparing. I like to call this time a "Delay to Develop". It feels like withholding and we've probably heard it a million times "God is withholding a blessing because you need to..." Nope. Ladies, that is a lie. There is a delay because the miracle is unfolding where you can not see it. The rain is coming, the earth will be quenched, and the seeds will produce fruit.
God's timing is sometimes forgotten in this day and age. We live in a time when we want results, and we want them now. We pray and want to open our eyes and see a miracle. The greatest miracles I have ever experienced in my life were those that I did not know He had coming. I may have given up hope and questioned His will. Then He says, "It's not yours, it's Mine." Isn't it all His? What feels like a withholding in your marriage is actually, God's great love. The disappointments we feel in the wait are His greatest acts of love. We find freedom when we remove the restrictions we have placed on Him and surrender. If you don't believe me...ask Him.
Accepting, knowing, and trusting that even the delays in our marriage, life, and prayers is stepping into hope. When you can strip away your disappointments with God your view of the otherwise changes. You become excited about what He is planting for you. You are encouraged knowing that something beautiful is about to spring up, you appreciate the tenderness that rises out of the darkness and grows so big and strong that in and of itself produces the fruit you need over and over. The miracles are planted and there are miracles within those miracles.
Even in God's Word the garden that He so perfectly planted in the beginning, that was so craved and longed for ultimately is berated by sin. God will plant that perfect garden, because truly your marriage is His, not yours. He will put you on the perfect path surrounded by all of His miracles. The human part of us, the flesh, even after the garden, will wander off the path and into the thorns from time to time. We may forget that He needs us to tend to things, we forget to ask for His help, we try to do it all on our own and we will find that we need His restoration in our marriage. The beauty of it all, is that the garden of this life's journey is nothing compared to the one He has waiting for us in glory. Trust that your marriage, when in a dry spell, is about to unfold many miracles.
Lord Father, I thank You today for your unseen miracles. I thank You for Your perfect timing. I thank You for the dry spells because they too serve a purpose. I thank You for the grass that is greener because it gives me hope. Lord, you are my Lord and I trust Your perfect plan for my marriage. Help my faith when it is small. Help my unbelief when I don't see the miracles. When my marriage feels dry and barren, remind me Lord of Your planting. Thank you Jesus for your great love and redemption. Spirit teach me and nuture my marriage. I come to You, Oh God, asking for your blessings in my life. Send the rain, Lord. In Jesus name, Amen.
I am married to my high school sweetheart. We've been pressing ahead together for over 24 years. We have 5 beautiful children; 3 by my own body and 2 through foster to adopt. I wrote this Bible study in 2009, years ago, for myself and shared it on my blog. It is very dear to my heart. It's been tweaked and edited many times and I'm proud to be bringing it back to you. Over the years I received countless emails from women who credited this study with changing their marriage for the better. Since removing it from my old blog I have received just as many emails asking when it would return. I hope you enjoy spending your time in God's Word with me.