I slept but my heart was awake.
Listen! My lover is knocking:
"Open to me, my sister, my darling,
my dove, my flawless one.
My head is drenched with dew,
my hair with dampness of the night".
- Song of Songs 5:2
When the Lord first gave me this scripture I admit I was completely confused by it but not surprised. I knew He would have much to teach me here and boy did He. Praying for wisdom before starting a new day of study always leads to a deeper lesson for me and I pray that as you read this, you see the importance of this scripture as well and at the end of today's devotion, come back and read it again through the eyes that Christ has opened for you.
I had to back up and read a little more of the verses surrounding the scripture to begin my understanding of it so let me explain to you what I learned. This is "The Bride" telling another distressing dream. Have you ever dreamed of losing something you loved. I have had horrible dreams of losing my husband or even my children through years. It's very distressing. So, the bride here is telling of a dream. I put "The Bride" in quotations because as we know, "The Bride" is also the church of Christ. Jesus is about to show us once again how our marriage mimics the Gospel and the relationship that God desires with us. I am going to scripture dump on you because the Word is where our wisdom is found. Hang with me because it took me a bit to understand where this little journey would take me as well.
Let's start with...
So they went away by themselves in a boat to a solitary place. But many who saw them leaving recognized them and ran on foot from the towns and got there ahead of them. When Jesus landed and saw a large group, he had compassion on them, because they were like sheep without a shephard. So he began teaching them many things. -Mark 6:32-34
Are you confused? What does this scripture have to do with a verse in Songs? I was completely confused but I promise it all comes together. If you're already seeing the connection, you're one step ahead.
Jesus went through all the towns and villages, teaching in their synagogues, preaching the good news of the kingdom and healing every disease and sickness. When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. ˆ- Matthew 9:35-36
Seeing a similarity? Keep hanging with me. I'm so excited for where we are going I can't type fast enough.
One of those days Jesus went out to the a mountainside to pray, and spend the night praying to God. - Luke 6:12
In the words of Jesus: The servant came back and reported this to his master. Then the owner of the house became angry and ordered his servant, 'Go out quickly into the streets and alleys of the town and bring in the poor, the crippled, the blind, and the lame.' 'Sir," the servant said, 'what you ordered had been done, but there is still room.' "Then the master told his servant, 'Go out to the roads and country lanes and make them com in, so that my house will be full.'" - Luke 14:21-23
Let's read the Songs verse above again.
The bride in Songs is satisfied with her washed feet, clean and ready for bed, while the bridegroom, his "head drenched with dew" and his "Hair with the dampness of the night", is toiling for others, working. The state of the bride is not one of sin but one of neglect of service. "The Bride" doesn't want to get her feet dirty and answer the door, later she finds, when she finally answers, that her Lover has moved on and she is such distress because she can not find Him, she is lost and the world attacks her, she realizes all she every wanted was right there begging for her.
Ladies, the Lover of our Soul is knocking on our door and He has worked so hard, day and into the night, sharing the Gospel so that no one is left, that everyone is invited in.
Let's talk about how this applies to our hearts and our marriage.
From day one of this marriage study I have kept the focus on how God's Word can help you become a better wife. I put absolutely no focus whatsoever on how you can make your husband a better husband other than through the power of prayer and despite what many of us believe about our husbands, believe now that Jesus believes your husband is a great man of God. Jesus himself will toil and work, the Spirit will intercede when you do not, to win your husbands heart to the Him. Always remember the world is ready for an attack. I have many conversations, so many, with women who say the want their husbands to pray more, to tithe, to go to church, to seek a relationship with Christ, to be saved, and the list goes on and on. I hear you, my heart always wants my husband to grow in Christ too, and I prayed all those things for him as well. First, we must begin praying for that relationship with Christ to grow; for ourselves and for our husbands. Don't be discouraged because it is your diligence in prayer that will make a difference.
Again so many scriptures were given to me for this days devotion. If you don't have your Bible out or your Bible App open, get ready because here they come and I want you to put the work in here of looking them up.
Matthew 28:18-19 = All authority
Proverbs 1: 20-23 = Wisdom is calling, respond.
Acts 13:46 = Don't reject Him.
1 Samuel 2:8 = He raises the poor up and gives them an inheritance.
James 2:5 = The poor in the eye of the world are rich in faith.
2 Peter 3:9 = He is patient for your salvation.
2 Corinthians 5:20 = WE ARE AMBASSADORS
We are ambassadors for Christ's love. In order to understand the love Christ has for us, we need to focus on our love affair with Him. How can we love a lost and dying world, how can we love our lost husbands, how can we fully love if we don't first love Jesus. We can't. It's time ladies that we recognize that Jesus has already done all we need Him to do and we just need to put ourselves in the vulnerable place of letting Him love us deeply, He can meet that love need we have so that we can focus on our husbands and marriage in prayer.
He has such great things in store for us and our marriage. A heavenly inheritance awaits. Stay the course, stay in prayer.
All scripture points to the Gospel. So, with that in mind, we can approach all scripture as if it's the Good News. As you pray for your marriage and husband today, remember that the "Bride" and even ourselves as wives may be neglecting what we are called to do because we don't want to get our feet dirty. Is it possible that we have found a comfy place and have prepared ourselves for our own rest when Jesus is knocking and asking us to be His hands and feet. If you have given up on your marriage or your husband, is it now time to rise up. Are you satisfied, while He is not?
Enter theThrone Room of God by locking arms with Jesus. Dance before the Lord with joy for what He is about to do just because of your presences and asking, and ask Him all those questions that you have concerning your marriage and your husband. Ask that He rain down His blessings on your marriage and show your husband favor. Let Him show you what is possible. Pray with me.
God Father, all of heaven roars Your name. You are Mighty and how excellent is Your name in all the earth. You set Your glory above the heavens and the earth. When I think that you have orchestrated my marriage as perfectly as you orchestrated the sun and moon and stars, no praise is high enough for how great You are. I thank You for all the blessings You are about to rain down in my marriage. Lord, what a mighty God we serve that the angels bow before You and You are willing to show my husband favor. Remind me that I am a good thing. I adore You God and I am ready to serve You. Show me Lord how I can be Your hands and feet in my marriage and for my husband so that the world can see what is possible. Work Your miracles in my marriage Lord just as Jesus did for the broken and hurting here on earth. All glory, all honor, all praise is to You Lord for you are so mighty in Your ways. Hallelujah, in Jesus Holy name, Amen.
I am married to my high school sweetheart. We've been pressing ahead together for over 24 years. We have 5 beautiful children; 3 by my own body and 2 through foster to adopt. I wrote this Bible study in 2009, years ago, for myself and shared it on my blog. It is very dear to my heart. It's been tweaked and edited many times and I'm proud to be bringing it back to you. Over the years I received countless emails from women who credited this study with changing their marriage for the better. Since removing it from my old blog I have received just as many emails asking when it would return. I hope you enjoy spending your time in God's Word with me.