God of hope, fill me with all joy and peace as I trust in You, so that I may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. - Romans 15:13
Oh how many times I have gone to my Father in prayer for another's marriage. How many times I have I watched a marriage fall completely apart. How many times I have questioned as to why this happens and why can't "I" help. Then the Lord softly spoke to me concerning this heavy weight of my heart "I don't expect you to to fix their marriage. I expect you to show them what is possible." When I heard in my Spirit these words whispered so gently and unexpectedly I knew that I could hand over all of that heavy weight I had carried to Him. He is going to show you what is possible, what you choose to do with that is up to you.
You're hope for your marriage is not found in this study. It is found in the power of the Holy Spirit.
You have come 39 out of 40 days with me. You have journey through God's Word and He still has more for us. As you yield, the Holy Spirit will share these blessing with you and you can believe that they are coming.
Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. - Romans 12:12
1 Th 5:17 simply tells us that we are to pray continually and it is of utmost importance that you are faithful with your prayer. Your prayer will unlock the blessings that are waiting to cascade from heaven down on your marriage. Be patient, they are coming as you are faithful and you can find so much joy in that promise, in that hope.
The mind of a sinful man is death, but a mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace. - Romans 8:6
I'm treading as lightly as I can here but this must be said and toes will get stepped on. I make no apologies. I experience such negativity and words from wives as they speak "death" over their marriage. They wait until the divorce papers arrive or their husbands to walk out and then I get the email, I get the Facebook message, or I get a text that says, "pray for me, my husband just left", "pray for me, my marriage is over", "pray for me, my husband doesn't love me and he walked out." Ladies, this is speaking death over your marriage before you've even begun to believe that God has something different for you. I'll address this lack of faith in a bit. If you are speaking death and not life over your marriage, not matter how "dead" you believe it is, then stop now. STOP NOW. Jesus raised humans, with hearts that no longer had a beat, from the dead. He surely can raise a seemingly dead marriage. As the scripture above says "a mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace". Speak LIFE! With the power of the Holy Spirit, start telling your giant just how big your God is. Have faith and when you don't have faith, ask for it.
Faith and trust in your God is imperative towards moving forward in your marriage with strength and belief, with joy and hope.
but now revealed and made known through the prophetic writings by the command of the eternal God, so that all nations might believe and obey him - Romans 16:26
The weight of that scripture is not lost on me. Is it lost on you? The promises of God that were commanded by God to be written for you today so that you might believe and obey him are powerful and real. Your belief level should have just risen 100% straight to the top. Believe and obey.
Adam's belief in God's promises were so big! So, big in fact, that he named his wife based on the promises that God gave. We are coming full circle today from the model of marriage in the beginning of this study to the belief of LIFE through faith here at the end.
Adam named his wife Eve, because she WOULD become the mother of all living. - Genesis 3:20 (emphasis added)
The essence of faith consists in believing and receiving what God has revealed. Consider what God has revealed to you over the last 39 days. Then the Lord showed me this.
These were all commended for their faith, yet none of them received what had been promised.- Hebrews 11:39
When the Lord first directed me to the above scripture I was without a doubt confused. The preceding scriptures went on and on about the heroes of faith and how the world was not worthy of them. Yet, none of them had received what had been promised. The reality is, faith enables us to turn from the approval of the world and seek only the approval of God. If God is glorified by delivering His people, He will do it. If He sees fit to be glorified by not delivering His people, then He will do that. But we must NEVER believe that the absence for deliverance means a lack of faith. That was why He showed me this scripture. To teach me about His ways and not my own. To teach me about faith and trust. God sees the faithful and the faithful see Him.
All these people were still living by faith when they died. They did not receive the things promised; they only saw them and welcomed them from a distance. - Hebrews 11:13
Lord, increase our faith.
Increase our faith...
so that, for our salvation, we may have a personal trust in You, apart from excellent and praiseworthy works, as we are delivered from our sins and raised again because of our justification. (Ro. 4:5, 23-25, 5:1)
so that in prayer, faith is the "confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to His will, he hears us." (1Jn 5:14)
so that when we reference the things unseen of which Scripture speaks, faith will give us substance to them, so that we act upon the condition of there reality, (Heb. 11:1-3)
and so that faith is a working principal in our life, and we are able to use faith as illustrated in Your Word.
Faith looks to the future. That is where the greatest rewards are found.
Without faith it is impossible to please God - Heb 11:6
This kind of faith grows as we study on His Word and participate in worship and prayer. Faith is possible to all kinds of believers in all kinds of situations. It is a necessity for all of God's people.
God has planned something better for us so that only together with us would they be made perfect. -Hebrews 11:40
What a beautiful ending to a chapter.
Father God, increase my Faith. When my faith feels so small, help me to trust in You completely. Help me to speak life over my marriage with the strength and gentleness of the Holy Spirit. Give me an eternal perspective of what is possible in my marriage and help me see beyond my present circumstances. God of hope, fill me with all joy and peace as I trust in You, so that I may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Help me to be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, and faithful in prayer. Lord, I want to live as a wife that pleases You. I know that I must have faith in Your dreams and plans for my marriage despite what the world tells me. Lord, thank you for all the goodness You have waiting and see us through the battles and storms that rage. When the world tries to rip us a part, show us how to cling to one another by clinging to You. Holy Spirit teach me to speak life over my husband, our marriage, and our future. No longer will I allow my tongue to speak death. Jesus thank You for Your sacrifice so that I may forever have faith in Your love for us. In the precious name of Jesus I pray, Amen.
I am married to my high school sweetheart. We've been pressing ahead together for over 24 years. We have 5 beautiful children; 3 by my own body and 2 through foster to adopt. I wrote this Bible study in 2009, years ago, for myself and shared it on my blog. It is very dear to my heart. It's been tweaked and edited many times and I'm proud to be bringing it back to you. Over the years I received countless emails from women who credited this study with changing their marriage for the better. Since removing it from my old blog I have received just as many emails asking when it would return. I hope you enjoy spending your time in God's Word with me.