Father, thank You for helping me to understand that the access I have gained into Your grace in which I now stand has come to me by faith. Help me to rejoice in the hope of Your glory! -Romans 5:2
Imagine trying to wrap up 40 days of a marriage study. I wanted it to go out with a bit of a bang, a powerful Word and I knew there was no way I could do it on my own. So, after much prayer before opening God's Word for this last day, I opened my Bible.
At the time that Paul was writing, the Galatian churches were face a double threat. One involved the purity of the doctrine and the other involved the purity of conduct. Certain individuals had come into the area who would "pervert the Gospel of Christ" (Gal 1:7, 5:10) They insisted that while salvation was of Jesus Christ, works were also necessary for salvation. In the book of Galatians Paul destroys all arguments in favor of mixing law with faith. Paul answers this argument by declaring the truth of the sanctifying power of the Holy Spirit, and the richness of life available when He rules the Christian with whom He indwells.
I believe the reason that this Book was deemed so important for the last day of this study is because the world is about to start telling you that your "works" as a wife are what will save your marriage and He wants the glory of saving it for you. No matter what your marriage looks like at this very moment, He wants to be the One that indwells within it. Boy, that sure takes the pressure off of us. We don't have to worry about how we "perform" as wives as long as we are trusting in Him.
Paul was hot mad when he began writing the letter to the Galatians. He opened his letter with love but dove right into what was making him angry. The world was seeping into what needed to stay pure. Faith in what Christ had done for the world would bring about salvation for the world and that was being perverted by the world.
You have come so far by completing these 40 days of studying on your role in your marriage and through prayer that it is imperative that you not let the world influence your behavior at the close of this day. You are to still continue to spend time in prayer, seek guidance from the Spirit, and have faith at all times that your marriage matters to God.
Be diligent in trying not to win the approval of the world, but of God. If you are trying to please the world, you are not a servant of Christ. Remember, sisters, that the gospel that we believe is not something that man or the world made up, it was received by revelations from Jesus Christ. The life that we live is the result of Christ living in us. Our lives are a reflection for Christ and not of the world. We died to our self with Christ so that we can live by faith in Him who loves us and gave himself for us.
As we move forward from today, we must continue in prayer for our marriage and our husbands. You are running a good race. Don't let the world confuse you and always remember who the author of confusion is, go back to Scripture when you are unsure. Go back to prayer when you need wisdom. Trust the Spirit that gives us victory over sin for the sinful nature desires what is opposite of the Spirit. Sin and the Spirit are always in conflict against one another so that you do not do what you want but what the Spirit want, let the Spirit lead.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control. Against such things there is no law - Galatians 5:22-23
When the world is telling you to be the opposite of these things towards your husband or others, its time to take a step back. It's time to get back into God's Word and seek His Throne room, where you belong. When your husband is opposite of those things and "caught in sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently." (Gal 6:1)
We have a responsibility that is greater than our own desires. We are being called to operate in our new life, as new creations, as something beautiful and pure. Just a few days ago the Bride of Christ as referred to as a "dove, my flawless one" (Songs 5:2, 6:7) Christ sees you through a different lens than the world does. We should also strive to see our husbands through the same lens of Christ. Do not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. (Galatians 6:9)
I would like to leave you with this. Years ago, I sat down with my heart and my Bible open and let God pour His love and wisdom into me concerning my marriage. Sometimes, I read what I have written and step back and say "Did I write that?" It's because the mind forgets but it is all planted deeply within me. His Word and my faith in Him changed my marriage. It is different. Our marriage is good. We have had some major battles since I completed this study the first time, some likely would have ripped our marriage to shreds. The devil has tried to chew us up and spit us out. Prayer is what got us through it. Even in our darkest moments, we started seeking light and we always found it in Christ.
I love to ask people I meet how long they have been married, sometimes the numbers astound me. I then like to ask what their secret is and the answer is almost universally, "we never gave up."
Father God, the world will come at us like a freight train. My husband and I will, from time to time, feel like our marriage has taken a beating. We will feel like our marriage is being chewed up and spit out by the world. Father, I ask you today to put a hedge of protection around our marriage, guard our hearts, and send your angels armies out to protect what you have put together so perfectly. Help us to always seek you first when there is a giant standing in front of us or a mountain we must climb. Lord, we trust you. We have faith in you. We look forward to the joy that will spill out and over flow on the world through this gift, this marriage, you have given us. Thank You Jesus for your love and sacrifice as the example of how we should love. Spirit continue to lead, guide, and direct us as we move about this world. Help us to discern what is not of You. Lord, again we thank You for all your blessings, gifts, and favor. Give us the strength and wisdom to never give up. In Jesus name we pray, Amen.
I am married to my high school sweetheart. We've been pressing ahead together for over 24 years. We have 5 beautiful children; 3 by my own body and 2 through foster to adopt. I wrote this Bible study in 2009, years ago, for myself and shared it on my blog. It is very dear to my heart. It's been tweaked and edited many times and I'm proud to be bringing it back to you. Over the years I received countless emails from women who credited this study with changing their marriage for the better. Since removing it from my old blog I have received just as many emails asking when it would return. I hope you enjoy spending your time in God's Word with me.