Ladies, we are adopted. We are daughters of a Mighty King and He has so much to teach us. The next 10 days are dedicated to that relationship with God: Father God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. I want to unravel for you ideals, religion, and lies. I pray that the next 10 days are the most powerful words you will read in this study. This study is a tool; it's a supplement to the Bible. We are going to dive into His open and living Word and pray for transformation as wives. We will transform our thinking and know that He is the One who orchestrates the parts of our marriage that is at peace and full of love. He walks us through the hard times and stands near us through every fight and ill word. He's just waiting for us to ask for help, seek forgiveness, give forgiveness, ask for wisdom, and favor. He wants us to realize on the very deepest level, our souls, that we are His daughters and He expects us to walk this life as such.
As I prepared for this day's devotion I found myself circling my living room in prayer with arms open wide as if surrounding myself with His presence. Praying for Spirit wisdom and for Him to teach me what I needed to know most. See, we all fall short. We will often find ourselves being the wives we weren't called to be and with a heavy shame I asked for forgiveness for the way I had treated my husband previously. It is hard living with another person and walking this walk. I wanted to open up some scripture for you, like God has opened it for me. Let's visit Matthew 5 together.
You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything (or anyone) except to be thrown out and trampled under people's feet. YOU are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let YOUR light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father in heaven. - Matthew 5:13-15 (emphasis added)
The Lord speaks to us in different ways; for me, He speaks in vision and images. When I read this scripture I have many images. You are a light. Picture it, a city on a hill, lit by light from within for all to see. I think about the little song I sing to my daughter "This Little Light of Mine." Her favorite part is when we sing "Hide it under a bushel...NO! I'm gonna let it shine." Ladies, we sing these words into our babies but the Lord is singing it into us. We would never want to diminish our children's little lights. We want them to shine so bright and our Father wants the same for us. He wants others to see us and our lights. Our lights from within are completely fueled by His love for us and the relationship He desires to have with us. Jesus did not unveil the Father for us to stay hidden. The veil was torn.
We are called to bring the light to others and especially our spouse. The one person in the entire world the Lord wanted you to cling to and spend your life with deserves your light. He deserves to see your light shine from within and we have got to stop putting "bushels or baskets" over it. We are called to put our light on a lampstand. To stand and be still and to just shine. We don't need to even run around spreading our light, the light attracts, we need only be still.
When we hide our light, we diminish our influence to bring God right into our marriage. Our marriage benefits when we build our relationship with God. As our fuel, our anointing oil, our flames shine brighter and brighter as that strong connection is built. We are empowered to live the way Jesus intended us to live. In His glory, by the Gospel, we have an unbreakable connection that will never fail us in our moments of deepest testing.
We can not fail to pursue a personal relationship with God, we can no longer sit on the side lines and watch the world influence our husbands or our families. We must seek a relationship with God. What does that mean? It wasn't until the last several years, that the Lord truly started exposing for me the lies in my life and where they started. Sadly, many of my influences came from religious encounters as a child. They were so deeply woven into my being that I had no idea they could even be unraveled. I asked for wisdom and I received it.
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. - Romans 12:2
In order to build the relationship I needed to with God I had to transform my thoughts and renew my mind. Have you ever noticed that it seems like "new Christians" have a better grasp for what Christ has done for us than many other people we know. I have and it blows me away. I was saved as a young child and I thank God over and over for that grace in my life. However, I knew that I was missing something. There was an evening at church when I didn't want to leave. I kept telling my husband "I know I'm saved, I love Jesus but I'm missing something." I was. I was missing so much. Shortly after praying for God to reveal to me what I was missing I picked up a book a friend had written about the power of the Holy Spirit. The first words that jumped off the page went something like "do you feel like you're missing something". I did not put that book down.
I was missing a connection with the Spirit. The Spirit is available to us all but I had no clear understanding of what He was in my life. I saw the Holy Spirit as a mist or unclear substance and believed the lie that He was not always available to me. I believed that the Holy Spirit was a spiritual substance and not a Person desiring a very intimate relationship with me. I have a feeling, you may be reading this and say..."me too." The next 10 days, I'm going to introduce God to you as a whole. I want to introduce you to the Spirit as He has been introduced to me. I want you to experience the life changing, marriage changing, belief changing, wisdom growing, Helper that we have waiting for our call.
God communicates with each of us in unique ways. I want to help you experience Him in a way that allows an open line of communication so that you can see and feel His presence in your life. I don't tread lightly here, this is the most impactful part of healing your marriage, saving your marriage, restoring your marriage, redeeming your marriage, and delivering your marriage. If this is what you desire, then the next steps are going to change you, transform your mind, unravel wrong thinking, and renew your mind in the truths that God has for your marriage. It all starts with YOU and your relationship with Father God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit.
Until your mind is renewed, you will struggle with mentalities that are in opposition of what God wants you to experience in this life journey with your husband. We are going to confront these mentalities head on with the armor that God has given us, with the Fruits of the Spirit that He has sown into us. It's going to feel like someone pulled a string and you started spinning like a top. You're going to spin and spin and spin and in the midst of it all you will find that your light grows brighter and brighter. The whole world is going to see what God can do in a marriage. It's not my job to save your marriage. It's not. It's my job to show you what is possible. Pray with me.
Father God, I come to You asking that You reveal Yourself to me. I ask that You help me sense, see, and hear You. Help me to discern the lies the world has impressed upon me that hinder a personal relationship with You. Lord, I ask that You reveal Your Holy Spirit to me in such a way that I know without a doubt that His presence is within Me. I need Your Help. My Helper is waiting and I ask that You help me build a stronger connection with You. Lord, I ask that You place in my heart a deep desire to know You. Help me believe during my unbelief that You are for me, Father. Reveal Your love and truth. I have a desire to know Jesus, my Savior, on a deeper more personal level. A level deeper than I know, one that my soul desires. Lord I hand You my life, I surrender my life to You. Show me new and glorious things, renew my mind, transform my heart, and remove ungodly mindsets. Lord, bless my husband through this. Help me show Him the relationship He can have with You. Thank you Lord that You have given me the armor I need to protect myself during this time of fresh renewing. In Jesus' sweet and Holy name, I pray. Amen.
I am married to my high school sweetheart. We've been pressing ahead together for over 24 years. We have 5 beautiful children; 3 by my own body and 2 through foster to adopt. I wrote this Bible study in 2009, years ago, for myself and shared it on my blog. It is very dear to my heart. It's been tweaked and edited many times and I'm proud to be bringing it back to you. Over the years I received countless emails from women who credited this study with changing their marriage for the better. Since removing it from my old blog I have received just as many emails asking when it would return. I hope you enjoy spending your time in God's Word with me.