Genesis 2:18 says "I will make him a comparable helper."
As I was preparing for this day's study I back tracked all the way to the beginning. Something inside me just wanted to know more about the first lady, the very first wife according to God's Word. When I read the verse my immediate thought went straight to Jesus. He told all of us he would send another helper. (see John 14:16) God Himself would send His Spirit to help us. When we see the word helper here it is describing function rather than worth. I also looked up the scripture in various different text and found that the word comparable was substituted for the words below..
The reality is, the world has worked mightily to change the truth of our power as wives to our husbands. There is great power in knowing the truth of our roles as wives. Saying "yes" in a marriage ceremony isn't just saying so to get married and call your husband as such. It's saying "yes' to God's divine plan as a helper, a wife.
Let's get to the heart of the conversation and strip away the idea or feeling that a helper is some how less. Let's use a physical task of lifting a log as an example On one end of a log is a man who is lifting, dragging, pulling, fighting, and struggling with the log. He begins to tire and feel the task is just to much. Then, along comes a helper who lifts the other end. The helper helps him carry, maneuver, place, and set the log until the task is complete. The helper made the job easier, right? It was less stressful and perhaps even enjoyable if the helper was good company to be around. They can celebrate the triumph over a heavy obstacle or even move to the next, accomplishing much more work at a comfortable pace that is probably just more enjoyable because of the companionship.
Did you imagine the helper as another man or as his wife? Either way, the same exact logic applies to your role as helper to your husband. You do make life better, easier for him. In turn your reward comes with respect, love, appreciation, etc. Even if you don't always feel it or even if it's not recognized for what it is.
As our husbands helper we are to be just that, a helper and not a hindrance. Becoming a hindrance to our husbands by not helping, putting them down, by nagging, or picking fights also hinders the blessings. The reality is, our husbands are not perfect, they can't do all that they are created to do without us. We aren't servants, we are helpers; we should be equally yoked. Your husband isn't meant to walk this journey of life alone. He is meant to walk it with you. I encourage you to reflect on your role and take notice of all the little things you do that are a blessing. Those little blessings you bring are magnified when we praise our Lord Father for allowing us to be the blessing.
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I am married to my high school sweetheart. We've been pressing ahead together for over 24 years. We have 3 boys of our own and 2 foster babies. I wrote this Bible study years ago for me and shared it on my blog. It is very dear to my heart. It's been tweaked and reformatted and I'm proud to be bringing it back to you. Over the years I received countless emails from women who credited this study with changing their marriage for the better. Since removing it from my old blog I have received just as many emails asking when it would return. I hope you enjoy spending your time in God's Word with me.