SEPARATING the peas and carrots
They go together like peas and carrots. Everywhere we go I get asked "are they twins?" If you have children close in age you may also get the same question. Some days it may feel like you're chasing twins or shuffling twins from place to place. My littles are 18 months apart, there is no denying they look like they could be twins. This is great when it comes to playing together...not so great when they need to be apart. One feels lost without the other and that's what I want us to talk about... what does this look like for your children and how do you handle it?
Two of my older boys are like peas and carrots too. It seems the older of the two is much more attached to the younger. My older one never wanted to do anything or go anywhere without his brother. The younger one just shrugs off the separation. When they come back together though, it's a beautiful thing. So, my internal momma question was always asking "how do I preserve this deep love for each other and teach them it's okay to be apart and do different things?"
Here are five things that I have found work for us and I'm curious what has worked for you, so be sure to leave your comments to help me and help others and take a look at a few other resources I've included for you as well.
5 ways to help
Here are a few resources that can be helpful too.
An age by age guide to separation anxiety for kids. How to ease separation anxiety in babies, toddlers and preschoolers
How to Help a Child With Sibling Separation
How to Help Them Be Friends Forever
Where Foster Care and Adoption Are Concerned
Many of the same principals still apply but there is research and article after article online to help parents who help children with a more permanent separation. Here are a few....
Sibling Issues in Foster Care
Sibling Seperation | Foster Club
10 Myths and Realities of Sibling Adoption
Talk About This...
Use the comments section below to give your input. What was your experience like as a sibling? What are you facing right now as a mother of two close kids? What has worked for you? Whatever it is you want to share regarding sibling separation when kids are like "peas and carrots" is welcome...